All of us have been wronged, and all of us have wronged others. “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us” (1 John 1:8-10 NKJV). There are two lessons here. The first is that we need to be honest with ourselves and with others; additionally, we must confess our sins and seek reconciliation with our brother or sister in Christ. If we refuse to seek or to accept reconciliation, we violate Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:23 and 18:15. Read those and you will see that both the offender and the offended are to “Go” (5:24; 18:25). When that happens, we will meet in the middle. The focus of this article, as suggested by the title, is how to deal with the pain of the past. If we nurture it by retelling it to all who will listen, we will keep reliving it. Over the years, the pain becomes worse, not better. Paul exhorted us, “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:31-32). No, it is not easy, and yet, if we